Hosts: Milo Curtis, Dave Ambrose
Guest: Larry Werbil
Topic: Anger
Contact us at podcast@justlife.tv
Episode Synopsis
When does anger become anger? This is the opening question to our conversation on anger with our guest Larry Werbil. In this episode we explore what anger is, how we express it, and steps we can take to deal with this “on-board” emotion.
Resources & Thoughts mentioned in the Podcast
Three questions to answer when you’re angry
1. Who/What am I angry about?
2. What was I trying to accomplish with my anger?
3. What am I afraid of?Websites Mentioned
Emotions Anonymous: http://www.emotionsanonymous.org/Books Recommended
The Other Side of Love by Gary Chapman
Make Anger Your Ally by Neil Clark Warren
What do You Think?
We would love to hear from you and get some feedback on what you think on this topic. Let us know your thoughts and experiences by leaving a comment below and/or you can get a hold of us at podcast@justlife.tv.
March 6, 2008 at 7:29 pm |
Great podcast. There’s a lot to dig into and it raises even more questions. You guys do a great job of discussing this stuff on the fly. I would probably be afraid that I’d say something that would come out differently than I meant it. I like the guests you’ve been having too. That’s a good idea.
Random comments:
–I am surprised that such a high percentage of anger is caused by fear. Is that supposed to be for everyone, or just people who have anger problems? I think most of the time when I get angry it has to do with someone doing something wrong. It’s hard to imagine more than one occasion where fear causes anger (at least in my life) and those situations are mostly hypothetical. In fact, the more I think about it, the more skeptical I become about fear being the main catalyst because I can think of other reasons behind anger, and fear doesn’t seem to be more common than anything else. What about being insulted, stabbed in the back, disobeyed (in the context of teaching or parenting), lied to, stood up, or when something or someone you love is being mistreated, insulted. lied about, and in some cases, threatened. (I think sometimes a threat brings fear then anger, but sometimes the threat is empty and it just brings anger.) This is not to say that the situations you guys cited aren’t legitimate, but to add to the list you started.
–The comment along the lines that ‘if anger makes other people feel bad it is inappropriately expressed’ doesn’t seem right in all cases. If you’re upset because of some mistake or wrong that someone else has done, even if you express your displeasure kindly the other person is going to feel bad. Sometimes just knowing that you’ve made another person upset will make you feel upset–even if you think they were wrong to be upset in the first place.
–You’ve inspired me to Google Dave’s name. I only found the author, though. That’s a different Dave, right?
–I didn’t like the advice to walk away in the middle of a discussion or argument. That is one of my biggest pet peeves, and one of the rudest things someone could do. It hasn’t happened often in my life, but that sort of thing is guaranteed to make the situation escalate from bad to worst (which, for me doesn’t include physical violence or wall-punching). But I can’t think of a time when I got so angry that my logic and judgment were disengaged. I suppose it’s totally different when the situation is physically dangerous and there is no potential for reasoning?
–I wouldn’t mind listening to an “Anger: Part 2″ podcast sometime. I’ve recently had a conversation with a couple of people who said that all anger or being upset is legitimate and right. Specifically, it’s wrong to say that you or I should not get upset about a particular thing. This stance ends up putting emotions beyond critique, correction, and control, as well as making it inappropriate for those who interact with the upset person to resist him or her in any way. Any chance you could work that into a podcast? I suppose this topic would move away from anger management to anger removal.
–I noticed the volume fluctuated quite a bit at some points in this one. Any way to make it uniform? If not, it won’t keep me from listening but particularly at work the volume thing is an issue. I don’t want to turn it up to hear a quieter part then get blasted (and blast my co-workers) with a loud bit of laughing. If that’s something I have to live with, no problem, I’ll just use headphones.
Keep it up! I like the interaction this provides.
March 10, 2008 at 10:47 pm |
Ryan, Thanks for your interest! We aprpeciate your honest feedback and hope to incorporate some of your ideas. You’ve inspired us to do a follow up on this one!
March 11, 2008 at 7:38 am |
Guys,
Great podcast. Good ideas of how to deal with anger and look at what it is about when we get angry. Liked the notes from the discussion as part of the page. Good for review.
Also liked the idea of finding an appropriate way to vent the anger and then go back and talk calmly about why you were angry or what was behind it. I liked too that it was not a discussion about how not to ever be angry, but how to deal with anger better or correctly. The interaction was good, entertaining and keeps it real. Great stuff! Keep it coming!
March 14, 2008 at 12:24 am |
Thanks Dave! I can always use the reminder myself too!
April 2, 2008 at 2:05 pm |
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October 21, 2008 at 2:05 pm |
Did you ever get Larry(my dad) back as a guest??
It would be nice to hear more on this???
Did you ask his help on porn??
can you get back to me please???
Ed Werbil